"Who knew that 'YOU' could be such a dirty little word?"
These are the words from a client after a discussion about "You" statements
that define another person instead of relating to the real him or her.
Do you find yourself or your significant other saying things that define what they:
THINK: "YOU think you know everything."
FEEL: "YOU don't love me (or care)."
ARE: " YOU are a bad cook (or father)."
WILL DO: "YOU will miss me."
If these statements sound familiar, there is hope. Learn how to stop negative communication that brings resistance and resentment to your relationship. Learn how to build positive, encouraging communication that builds trust and empowerment.
"YOU'RE NOT LISTENING!"
Half of communication is listening to the other person and that includes observing body language. How effective are your listening skills as a couple? Do you feel like you are being heard? About 89% of communication is observing one's body language. Learn to practice active listening skills, hearing not interrupting the other person, clarifying what is being said, and understanding how your partner feels.
CONFLICT RESOLUTION SKILLS:
As partners, it is important to learn how to resolve conflicts peacefully. A pre-requisite is that two people like each other and want to work on the problem. Learn how to resolve problems peacefully (win-win situation) by building communication skills, making mutal agreements, and expressing feelings appropriately.
HOMEWORK:
Homework is utilized to process information from the counseling session; gain self-awareness and to set goals for the marriage. It is used to determine if goals are being met or need to be modified. Homework is generally due the next session.
